Getting a positive pregnancy test can be just as alarming as any other unexpected medical surprise. You were not planning on or trying to get pregnant, and the news can disrupt your current lifestyle and plans for the future.
Whatever your reasons for considering an abortion, it is a big decision to make for your body. You are not legally obligated to tell your partner that you are pregnant or your consideration to terminate the pregnancy.
However, as your partner, they are partially responsible and, if they are someone you can trust and feel safe with, they should be involved in the process. Read this article on how to share the news with empathy and confidence.
Make Sure That You Are Safe
No one should feel threatened or pressured in their pregnancy decision, and you must be mindful of how your partner may react when you share the news that you are pregnant and how you plan on handling the pregnancy.
Is he someone who has displayed overly-aggressive, violent, or abusive behavior in the past? If so, you are not obligated to share the news in person or do anything that may place you in harm’s way.
If you are still unsure how he may react, sharing the news with him in a public place or with a friend nearby may be a good idea.
Make Sure It’s The Right Time
There is no perfect time or place to deliver unexpected or emotional news, but there is a wrong time.
While you want to protect yourself, you also want to be respectful of your partner. There may be better options than delivering it in front of a group of friends or family or if they are in the middle of driving through rush-hour traffic.
Try to find when you can both be fully present and in a private place.
Give Them Time and Space
He is entitled to his feelings, so give him time to air his feelings and be willing to converse with him. He may have an opinion since he is involved, so, if possible, try to have an open mind on his input. If he has a differing opinion, have the facts and be prepared to answer his questions with how you came to your decision.
Make the Final Decision
Ultimately, it is your choice when making the final decision, but it may impact your physical and mental health and your relationship with your partner.
Because of this, ensure you’ve done all your research and discussed all options with your partner, if possible, before fully committing to the termination. While abortion may seem the best or only solution, work with your partner to fully research each option before making a final decision.
The worst that could happen is that you have more information. At AscentCare, we offer no-cost pregnancy services, and this includes options consultations where you can learn more about your options in just one appointment.
We also offer no-cost ultrasounds to confirm your pregnancy, determine viability (if there is a heartbeat), and locate the pregnancy, as well as STD testing which is an important piece of medical information you will need to know before your abortion decision. Schedule your appointment today.